What Lies Beneath a Facebook Post

What Lies Beneath a Facebook Post

This week, my middle son set off with his big sister for his Induction Day at Secondary School.  As I proudly posted a photograph of the both of them together, which in itself is a rarity, the concept of ‘over-sharing’ crossed my mind.  It caused me to deliberate before posting.  But I still did.


Because I am unbelievably grateful that he is starting secondary school.  Some children won’t.  Some children do but do not finish.  Some children finish but cannot reminiscence with their friends a few years down the line.

Until Felix’s diagnosis, I took all transitions for granted; Transition to Primary School, Secondary School, Post 16 Options.  It just happened, didn’t it?  Actually, it doesn’t.  I often think of a family grieving the recent death of their teenage daughter; in our community, a young lady’s transition to studying GCSEs has been stopped in its track because of a cancer diagnosis.  There are many families who would love to share a picture of their little one today – but they can’t.

I will overshare.  I am grateful for where we are at.  I want to celebrate every achievement.  I hope you understand.

It’s easy to make a judgment about what we see on social media.  It is not for us to judge.  It is not for us to scorn.  It is for us to celebrate with them.  To enjoy their happiness, to share in their sorrow.

I have read many theories which attempt to explain the psychology behind what and why people post on Facebook.  They have analysed posts about relationships, exercise and so on.  The majority of these theories come up with the obvious and simple explanation that posts never reflect reality.  Of course, they don’t.  Any social media post is censored and merely a snapshot of one moment in time.  We all know that.

What I would like to see is more empathy as to why people post what they do and not criticism.  People post for a reason.  It may be obvious, it may be subtle.  For them it is meaningful.  A simple snapshot shared for all to see.

Therefore, please just enjoy it for what it is.  Don’t analyse, don’t over think just consider, maybe even like or comment and move on.  Humans are complex.  Social media isn’t.  A post isn’t reflective of our inner psyche.  It is a merely a moment in time, explained and shared.

Just enjoy it.  Enjoy a little glimpse into someone else’s life.  I certainly do!



  • Amanda O'Donnell
    Posted at 20:36h, 09 July Reply

    “Over-share” as much as you like. I wish I could still “over-share” recent photos of my Mum. Cancer claims far too many “over-sharing” opportunities so grab every possible chance. Xx

    • Mrs Brown's Blogs
      Posted at 20:52h, 09 July Reply

      Thank you Amanda. So sorry about your Mum – it’s the simple things isn’t it. xxx

  • flamesparrow
    Posted at 00:41h, 10 July Reply

    Two days after their induction was my traditional Aillidh day. I froze. I don’t know why. I have made strangers smile in her memory for five years.

    I still don’t know why this year I froze. Maybe Felix getting this chance. Maybe seeing Daisy five years on from Aillidh.

    I don’t know. But tomorrow someone will get flowers for a girl they never met, and they will smile.

    I know this isn’t the most positive comment. I feel so much happy for Felix, I really do.

    • Mrs Brown's Blogs
      Posted at 08:25h, 10 July Reply

      Thank you for sharing – your sorrow and strength exudes from these few sentences. To Aillidh 💕

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