The Sibling Side: Childhood Cancer by Grace

The Sibling Side: Childhood Cancer by Grace

Hi, my name is Grace, I know that sometimes brothers and sisters of cancer patients are sometimes forgotten and I wanted to make sure that children who are going through similar things have something to relate to.

 I thought I would do this by sharing our story.

In September last year, my big brother started feeling ill

He went to the doctors and hospital a few times but they said there was nothing wrong with him.   One day I came home from school to find my grandma waiting for me as Joe was in the hospital. My mam and dad got home really late but no one told me anything. In the meantime, Joe had a big operation and I couldn’t see him as he was very poorly, still no one told me the reason. I knew there was something the matter.  He was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukaemia a few weeks later

No one told me this

They told me Joe had been moved to a bigger hospital which was better for children and I could go and see him. This visit was how I found out. I felt scared and I remember holding back tears but I didn’t let it show because I knew it would set everyone off crying. My brother seemed to be getting worse. I was scared to go to school in case something happened and I wasn’t there. I pretended nothing was wrong because I didn’t want anyone to have to worry about me too.

This doesn’t help at all

After a while, things were getting worse as the chemo stopped working as it should’ve. We later discovered my brother would need a bone marrow transplant. Me, my Mam and my dad all took blood tests to try and find a donor. I was the best option. In case you didn’t know, the risk of any transplant is death. Although the risk was low.  Me and my brother both cried in the tightest hug I ever had the day when everything was properly explained to me.
After a few more blood tests and lots more tears, it was finally the day of my operation. My brother was already in an isolation room in the hospital because he needed to be kept away from germs and infections. We signed on to the ward and I lay on the bed until it was time. I changed into my hospital gown and walked to the children’s operating theatre. Once I was done and back on the ward I felt very dizzy, I knew it was worth it though.

The next day my brother received his transplant.

A few months have passed now and things are looking up, if you have a brother or sister with cancer it will be horrible but hopefully, though things will get better for you. Don’t be afraid to tell people that you’re scared or upset because it will help. Always make sure people know how you feel – My friends helped me through this and it can sometimes be easier to talk to them than your parents.

This journey will be tough but always remember that you are a lot tougher

3 Comments
  • Jacey Rochester
    Posted at 16:55h, 05 September Reply

    Hi grace it’s Jacey, hope joe is all better now and getting on the mend. You have been such a brave little sister and I know it’s been hard for you and your family but to let you know you have always got Friends to talk too, it has been such a tough time but you have been the bravest person I know x

  • Pauline
    Posted at 22:57h, 05 September Reply

    An amazing blog Grace, you’re a little superstar! Keep smiling x

  • Kirsty Nelson
    Posted at 20:14h, 06 September Reply

    That’s a great blog Grace, you should be very proud of yourself. Very brave and mature for your years xx

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