Our Christmas Tree of Tat and the Good People

Nothing matches or coordinates but I love our Christmas tree and all that it symbolises.  The kids and Dad would love a tree that is coordinated: Felix would love a tree adorned with silver and white whereas Dad would love a ‘Red and Black’ theme to symbolise the support from our local team.  However, I will continue to fight for our Tree of Tat because it is symbolic of who we are and where we are at.

Christmas is a strange old-time for so many of us.  Whilst the inspirational and poignant quotes herald the warm hug that is Christmas or that Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year, for a lot of us it is a unique time smothered with dilemmas, angst and friction owing to the perpetuated myth of the perfect Christmas.

I know families and friends who are juggling and dodging huge family disparity in order to create the sense of the perfect Christmas.  There are oncology families such as ours who are on tenterhooks about the possibility of a Christmas admission to hospital; I already know of one family who will be celebrating Christmas with thanks to the NHS and another who may have narrowly missed an admission.  There are families who are not the same as they were last year for too many reasons to recount; through death or separation or conflict or love; the reasons don’t matter but the absence will.

For us, this Christmas seems somewhat unreal and unbelievable.  Things seem so relatively normal that we need pinch ourselves once in a while.  There are still things that remind us that it is all a bit different; our very classy starter of prawn cocktail is a no-no this year because of Felix’s restricted diet, he will still need to take his chemotherapy tablets on Christmas Day as well as his antibiotics both of which he has to take for the next 2.5 years .  I will still be on high alert for a temperature spike which will mean a hospital admission and will continue to kiss his forehead more often that not knowing that he knows why.  However, we will plan and we will enjoy and we won’t let this year curb our enthusiasm for enjoying our ‘new normal’.

The things that are most apparent as we reflect on this year are very simple in their entirety.  They are poignant and uplifting in their nature.  These things have kept us going.  They are simple.  People are essentially good.  People are kind.  People are gracious.  People really do have a heart of gold.  In our age of social media and harsh comparisons of what is deemed to be the ‘ideal woman’,’perfect mum’,’top dad’ or ‘happy family’ the one thing that we rarely commend each other for is that everyone we have met or corresponded with are amazingly ‘good people’.  That’s what Christmas should be about, celebrating ‘good people’.  Good people are like our Tree of Tat.  These trees are filled with experience, love and tenderness which cannot be bought or replicated but developed over years.  Christmas should be about goodness, kindness, grace and love for all; not just on one day but everyday.

Everyone should have a Tree of Tat, small or large so that when they are faced with dilemmas, angst or friction they can admire their lovingly developed tree and remember the good people in their lives that have been with them that year and will continue to be with them in the following year.

Merry Christmas to all of you on our Tree of Tat and thank you all so much for your love and support this year.  Here’s to 2017!

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One thought on “Our Christmas Tree of Tat and the Good People

  1. Our tree of tat is my most loved thing. From B’s first Christmas we have bought a new decoration. With each year, each child chooses a new one each. 30 new decorations (plus the made at school ones) in 13 years.

    They have said they want to buy one each year for their new cousin too.

    So many memories, good and bad, live in that tree. As they leave and get their own trees they can each take one of their decorations and start afresh.

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